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Sex - When Is The Time Right For You
When should you have sex . At what age are you old enough
If society had its way, you would never be old enough. Mary, the mother of Jesus was barely a teenager when she gave birth. Romeo and Juliet were in their early teens when they fell in love. Centuries ago, when the average life expectancy was around 40 years old, young girls, barely reaching puberty were married off. An old maid was anyone who had reached their 20's and was still unmarried. Gossip abound with innuendos that there had to be something wrong with the young lady because she was still unmarried. Today, in many parts of the world, young girls, barely teenagers are still married off. As the average life expectancy has increased so too has society's desire to delay the average age of when it's okay for young people to become sexually active.
Notice that I said when it's okay.... okay by society's rules. But what about Nature's rules. Or Nature's time table. Puberty is a very turbulent time for young people. Their bodies are being flooded with all kinds of hormones. Changes are occurring that are disconcerting and more often embarrassing. These hormones wreck havoc with young peoples' emotions. Nothing seems to work right and the constant feeling is one of being thrown off balance. So what gives. What gives is that nature is preparing your body to reproduce. It is preparing your body to be part of the never ending cycle of the survival of the species. In times past, people took this to mean a girl was ready to marry and start a family. And most did just that.
The strongest side-effect of this on-rush of hormones is the desire to mate. In order words, to have sexual intercourse. It is one of the strongest, most powerful drives on the planet. Unfortunately, society's rules are in direct opposition to what nature is pushing you to do. So .. what are you to do. Educate yourself. Learn everything you can about what is happening to your body. Learn everything you can about how your body works. Learn everything you can about the reproductive process. Learn everything you can about birth control, what works and what doesn't.. You have a right to know. You have a right to know how to take care of yourself and how to protect yourself. Protecting yourself is respecting yourself. Don't accept "just say no". That is being naive and setting yourself up for trouble. And most important of all, be selective. Be selective about who you spend time with or hang out with. Don't hang out with people who don't respect you. Don't date guys who push you to have sex before you are ready to have sex. Don't have sex just because everyone else is having sex. Or, most important, don’t have sex because some guy threatens to dump you for some other girl who he claims will have sex with him . Let him go. If he doesn't respect you or your decisions, then he isn't worth your time.
Sex is a very powerful force. In addition to the physical process of sex, there are the emotional and spiritual components of sex. It is in Nature's interest for two people to mate. So nature adds the intense sexual attraction and the deep desire for intimacy. It is a euphoric high, better than chocolate or alcohol or any drugs. It can become almost like an addiction. So be aware and be prepared. Be very choosy who you decide to have sex with. You don't have to be "in love" with this person. But I strongly advise you to be "in like" with this person. Choose someone you feel good being with, who respects you and appreciates and values you as a person. And someone you feel safe to be who you really are.
So... when are you ready or old enough to have sex. When you can have sex as a choice. An educated, informed choice that you make solely because it is what you want to do.