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Cut or Don’'t Cut ….. Please Don’t
Why do you cut? Because you are angry. Maybe enraged is a better word. Who are you angry at or feel rage towards? Someone who you believe you shouldn't feel rage towards. So it is easier, less emotionally painful to turn that rage against yourself. When the rage gets too strong and you feel you can’t contain it, you cut. Cutting releases some of the pressure caused by the rage. Except cutting creates a vicious cycle that in itself is as harmful as the rage you won’t acknowledge you are feeling.
Who are you so angry with? What are you so angry about? Usually, it is about things going on with the people you are the closest to. Maybe your parents are constantly fighting, or mom’s an alcoholic or she just yells at you all the time, or dad walked out and didn’t come back. Or maybe some one you are suppose to be able to trust is violating that trust and forcing you to do things you don’t feel good about. What ever it is, you anger is justified. You have a right to your anger.
So, what are you going to do about it? Cutting is not the answer. Neither is stealing, getting high, spacing out on drugs or alcohol, staying out till 3:00 in the morning, or sleeping around. All of these things are band aids. A short term fix until the next time the pressure gets too strong. You need to find a different way to release the pressure. Take up kick boxing or become a runner or find a gym that has a punching bag and punch it as hard and as often as you need. . Stop taking your rage out on yourself. It’s not your fault that the people you care about are doing what they are doing, even though we normally blame ourselves. If only I did ……… or didn’t do ….then …..this or that would not have happened. Maybe, but most likely not true.
Each person needs to take responsibility for what they do. And you need to take responsibility for yourself. Reach out to someone. Find a teacher, a school counselor, some one you can feel safe enough to tell them what’s going on. You need to talk to someone. And, please don’t cut.